Online Infertility and Pregnancy Loss Therapy in San Jose, CA
Therapy for the grief of infertility, failed IVF, miscarriage, stillbirth, and TFMR. Serving San Jose, Sunnyvale, Santa Clara, Cupertino, and surrounding Silicon Valley communities.
You remember when your life had room for more than grief
There was a time when you had weeknight plans, hobbies that had nothing to do with your body, conversations that didn't circle back to fertility. You remember what it felt like to enjoy a Saturday without performing okay, to laugh without a voice in the back of your head reminding you of what's missing. That version of your life feels far away now, and the grief has quietly filled the space where everything else used to be.
Maybe you've been through rounds of treatment and each one has taken more than the last. The first time, you bounced back. By now, you're running on something that isn't quite hope and isn't quite habit, and the things that used to make you feel like yourself have dropped away so gradually you barely noticed until they were gone.
Or maybe the loss came after you'd already started believing. You were far enough along to start making plans, and then everything reversed, and now you're supposed to be recovering while also deciding what comes next. The grief hasn't had anywhere to go because the world around you has already moved on to logistics.
You're here because you want your life back, not just the pregnancy you've been working toward, but the rest of it too: the friendships, the energy, and the ability to enjoy something without guilt.
Why specialized therapy matters for infertility and pregnancy loss
Infertility and pregnancy loss create a grief that most people in your life won't fully grasp, and that you may have trouble making sense of yourself.
You might be mourning a pregnancy that lasted six weeks, or a transfer that didn't work, or a baby you held and named, or a pregnancy you ended because the diagnosis left you with no good options. The loss is real in every one of those situations, even when the people around you don't treat it that way.
I've trained specifically in how reproductive loss affects the brain and body. You won't spend sessions explaining what a two-week wait does to you, or why a friend's pregnancy announcement can feel like a punch to the chest, or why your doctor's calm tone sometimes makes you want to scream.
That understanding is already in the room, which means your sessions focus on what this experience is doing to your daily life and how to help it change.
When understanding the grief hasn’t changed how you experience it
After enough cycles of hope followed by loss, your body starts treating hope itself as a threat.
That's why you tense up before the phone rings with results, why your heart races when someone asks a harmless question about kids, why you can't settle down even on days when nothing bad is happening.
Your body learned to stay on guard, and it hasn't gotten the message that it can stop.
You can understand all of this clearly and still feel the dread. That means the grief is living somewhere that insight and talking about it can't reach, which is exactly what the therapeutic approaches I use are designed to work with.
What changes after infertility and pregnancy loss therapy
Your best friend calls to tell you she's pregnant, and you feel the sting, but you also feel something real underneath it. You tell her you're happy for her and you mean it. You hang up and you're sad for a few minutes, and then you make dinner and watch something funny and the evening doesn't collapse.
You walk into your RE's office for a follow-up and you're nervous, but your hands aren't shaking and your mind isn't spinning worst-case scenarios before you sit down. You listen to what the doctor says, you ask a question you've been thinking about, and you drive home feeling like you can actually weigh your options instead of being flattened by them.
Someone at a gathering asks if you have kids, and you give whatever answer fits the moment. The question doesn't follow you home. An hour later you're in a real conversation with someone about a movie, a trip, a recipe, something that has nothing to do with fertility, and you're actually in it.
You wake up on a Saturday and your first thought isn't dread. You make plans for the day, the kind you've been putting off because it felt wrong to enjoy things while you're going through this. You go for a hike, eat lunch somewhere you've been wanting to try, and the afternoon feels like it belongs to you.
You and your partner are lying on the couch on a weeknight, and for the first time in a long time, you're just there. You're not processing anything, not avoiding anything, not performing okay. You're watching a show and your feet are on their lap and the room feels quiet in a way that used to be normal and hasn't been for a while.
Online therapy for infertility and pregnancy loss in San Jose
Online therapy means you can have your session from wherever feels most private, whether that's home, your car on a lunch break, or a quiet room at work. No commute, no waiting room, no rearranging your day around South Bay traffic.
I provide online infertility and pregnancy loss therapy in San Jose, Sunnyvale, Mountain View, Palo Alto, Santa Clara, Cupertino, Campbell, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Milpitas, Fremont, and throughout California, including the East Bay Area.
Who this is for
I work with people at every stage of the infertility and pregnancy loss experience: during treatment, after a failed cycle or transfer, after a miscarriage or stillbirth, after a TFMR, after deciding to stop trying, or years later when the grief resurfaces. I also work with people who are pregnant after loss and carrying fear through what everyone else treats as happy news.
This is a good fit if you want a therapist who specializes in reproductive loss and who uses approaches that work with your body and nervous system, not just your thoughts. This is not a good fit if you're looking for couples therapy (I work with individuals), parenting support, or fertility coaching.
About Summer
I'm Summer Verhines, a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW #68507) with a private telehealth practice serving all of California. When you work with me, you're working with someone whose training is specifically in grief and trauma, and who uses approaches designed to help that grief actually move instead of just being talked about week after week.
I'm trained in EMDR, Brainspotting, and Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART), all body-based methods that work with your nervous system directly.
That means we're not just understanding what happened, we're helping your body let go of the brace it's been holding, so you can make decisions from a clear place, feel safe enough to hope again, and stop living in a constant state of waiting.
Logistics
50-minute Sessions are $250.
I also offer 90-minute sessions for $375 and intensive sessions (2-4 hours) ranging from $500 to $1000 for people who want to work intensively.
I don't take insurance directly, but I can provide superbills for out-of-network reimbursement if your plan covers that.
I am available early mornings, evenings, and weekends. I provide services online only.
Self-Schedule or Contact Me Below
For the quickest and most confidential option, you’re encouraged to book directly into my calendar by clicking the Self-Schedule Here button below. That button will take you to my HIPAA-compliant calendar where you may request an appointment. Once I confirm your appointment request (typically within 24 hours), I will email you the new client forms to digitally sign. Then, we will meet on your scheduled day.
If you have questions prior to scheduling, you can also use the contact form below, and I’ll reply within 48 business hours. If you don’t see a reply, please check your junk/spam folder.
I look forward to hearing from you!
— Summer Verhines, LCSW
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Frequently Asked Questions
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The first session is about me understanding what you've been through and how it's showing up in your life right now. I'll ask about your history, but I'm also paying attention to what's happening with your sleep, your energy, your relationships, and the situations you avoid. That tells me where to focus. You don't have to share everything in the first session.
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No. EMDR and ART don't require you to narrate your trauma over and over. We work with what's happening in your body and brain in ways that process the pain without needing you to retell the whole story.
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Yes. Many people find it helpful to have support during treatment rather than waiting until it ends. We can work on the emotional toll as you go.
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An early loss can carry just as much weight as a later one, especially after a long stretch of trying or multiple losses. Grief doesn't follow a gestational calendar.
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I charge $250 per session. I provide superbills, which are detailed receipts you can submit to your insurance company for potential out-of-network reimbursement. The amount you get back depends on your plan. Call the number on the back of your insurance card and ask about out-of-network mental health benefits to find out what's covered before your first session.
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Support groups can be a real source of comfort, and they can remind you that you're not the only person going through this. But they can't help you process what's stored in your nervous system or change the automatic responses that are running in the background. Trauma therapy can.